toxic people

Toxic people, to me, are people who drain me of my serenity, my happiness, my self. We all have different character traits we find acceptable. Someone who is incredible toxic to me may be your best friend.

Many years ago I had a friend, just for the sake of giving her a name, let's call me Marie ( not her real name). She was very sad, always mad & always wanted to get revenge. Why was I friends with her, I HAVE NO IDEA, no wait, I thought I could HELP her. Silly me. We hadn't spoken for a hand full of years. I heard her father past away, so I did the right thing, sent her a card, and paid my respects at the funeral home. She could not go to the viewing, but her husband was there. The next day Marie called me. We talked for a while, filled eachother in on what we had been up to over the years........ We ended up becoming friends again. Yup, she was still very angry, thought the world owed her for her HORRIBLE life. Thank God she had no children. We spoke on a regular basis for a few months, grabbed lunch a few times.... Yeah, a friendship. Marie just stopped calling me, out of the blue. Ok, whatever. I went on with my life, got divorced, remarried..... Yeah, life stuff. Out of nowhere I got a message on my phone from Marie. She said she owed me an apology, would I please call her. I talked to my husband about her. We agreed it sounded like a "make direct amends when ever possible thing;-)" so I called her back, silly me. Marie apologized for just ending our relationship, & a few other things. I accepted her apology. She told me she had left her husband, and filled me in on a bunch of other drama. It was obvious in about 10 minutes that she had not changed. We ended the conversation, she left me a few messages, I never called her back.

She was very toxic to me. Perhaps others could deal with this crazy chick, I no longer could. I could have called her back, and limited the time I spent with her, but I didn't. She was very needy in our friendship. I dont have the time, or energy for that any more.

Someone was telling me the other day that a friend of his always lies to him. His friend is always loud, and angry, rude, and disrespectful. After I listened to my friend, heard his thoughts, I told him if I was in his situation I would end that friendship. I have to protect myself, keep my inner joy. If someone in my life sucks the energy from me, They gotta go.

I know we have to live next too, work with, difficult people every day, ya don't have to be friends with them.


I have grow, I have changed. I realize I can NOT be around people who are always miserable. I deserve inner peace, I can't have that if I'm involved with toxic people. My serenity is very important to me. I LOVE my quiet, simple life.